Are they really your "friends"?

Have you ever felt that your so called "friends" weren't really friends at all? Over the years, I have seen friends come and go. Mainly because they used me for what they needed, then moved on. I am the type of person who is nice enough to help you through your situations, give you advice and be the shoulder to cry on. But, I've realized that when I need the same treatment, my pretend friends shrugged it off and said they "don't know what to say" or gave a half-hearted "Aww I'm sorry". Even though I am a nice person, I do not allow people to use me.

Throughout life, we all question who is really looking out for us and who is stabbing us in the back or using us. In some cases, we might not want to see someone for who they truly are. Whether you have already encountered this or not, there are certain people that you really want to like you. And even if they don't like you, you try to impress them and make them like you. However, you should not have to do that. Do not put up a front just to make someone like you. Like it or not, they made their impression of you the first time they met you. Trying to change someone's view of you is not impossible, but it can be exhausting on your part.

Try to get involved in things you like. For example, if you want to become a chef, join a cooking class. People will have the same interests as you and sparking a conversation will not be as difficult as talking to someone who is the polar opposite. And as far as spotting fake friends, you will be able to tell if they are using you if you actually try to see them for who they really are. If they leave other friends hanging and talk about them behind their backs, that person is probably doing the same thing to you. Don't be a victim to fake friend syndrome! Real friends tell you the truth, make time for you, listen to your problems, and offer solutions. Don't allow yourself to become stuck in a friendship that is going nowhere. Find someone who will be there for you no matter what.

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